There's always more...

Today I learned a couple of things I don’t want to forget. Life has a funny way of convincing you that there will come a day when you “get it” or “get there” but if that were true then what’s the point in learning MORE or living another dream?

I have been writing like a banshee for a while now… it started with a work OPUS, then a personal one, then a S.CORE. I am getting close to hanging these up outside my office, behind my door and on the garage at home because by “finishing” them for some reason I kind of believed they were done. When actually, I think they are just beginning if I’m living out my overarching vision of being growth minded. You see I was stonewalling a fellow builder who just didn’t believe in a business strategy Kevin and I wrote because, well, I didn’t open my mind. I got it, I thought everyone else got it, and one person “not getting it” must just be an anomaly. However, I was gently reminded that I still have work to do in living my life with an open mind… and for that I’m humbled and thankful.

Secondly, I’ve been beyond blessed by the BTL proven methodology and more specifically Chestnut. What has really been interesting is to see him in different “lights” / rolls and then realize how much MORE there really is. When I first met Chet, he was “Tony Robbin’s” to me. A motivational speaker with a way with words. He would say things like, “I’m exhausted” after a practice and I thought he was full of dung. As Chet continued to share his voice, I began to hear it MORE clearly. I could actually see how he really said what he meant, meant what he said AND lived what he said. This authenticity, realness, commitment and belief are the real deal and that is rare – it just is.

It wasn’t until I met up with him and his daughter to pick up t-shirts and coffee mugs for last practice where this “MORE” became so much MORE. He was Chet AND a Dad. Both rolls gave me MORE insight into the other. Seeing him with his daughter showed me that he is just like any other working dad lucky enough to be on the road together, one heading to school – the other to work: they laughed, they teased, they spoke the same family dialect. He instantly became MORE than Chet the facilitator.

Then that encounter was quickly followed up by being able to see Chet “work” with the next group of BTL stallions in the Shop NB world. Because I had been through this before I was listening, watching, learning in a whole new way and consequently I saw MORE. During the first practice with the 20, I was fighting every urge I had to give them all of the answers, show them the way, tell them all of the secrets. AND what I saw in Chet was a man working his ass off to hold back the reigns, fight like crazy to let the moment / pain / learning / growth happen slowly AND purposefully. At the end of that practice when he said, “I’m exhausted”… I got it, I really got it MORE.

And again today, how lucky am I to be learning so much MORE than the average person? How lucky am I that I have people in my life who also want MORE? How great is it to know that MORE is possible? Today I learned that 2% out is plenty, but 100% in is mandatory AND it’s really important to see MORE in others to really get to know them. And in life as well, there’s always MORE…

DD

Pack Animal

So ever since our last BTL practice with the new 20, I haven't been able to stop thinking about the Anais Nin quote, "We don't see things how they are, we see things how we are." Funny how I've heard the quote before, except this time it stuck a little differently. If we see things how we are then there is great value in trying to learn how others see the same things AND even better, let others tell us how they see things in us - truth in love, but not in the tell someone "they suck", throw on a "truth in love :-)" sense - truth in love BUILT ON TRUST.

I've really been struggling lately to understand why I can't find the motivation and discipline to push myself harder to workout. I want to be healthy, I want to be in shape, I want to look better than I do, but still that's not enough. I've been doing a lot of thinking but also a lot of asking - this is new for me - I've reached out to a few that I really trust, that know me as well as any one can, and don't just tell me what I want to hear, but tell me what they see.

Someone told me today that I'm not a self disciplined person *truth* I'm a social disciplined person *tell me more*. When I'm a part of a "pack", my love for the group brings out a commitment in me that is strong, real and disciplined AND has often times lead to me becoming the pack leader. It just does. Since I'm more wired to be a member of a pack, my discipline will come when I have purpose other than that of my self. I'm just not built like an eagle who hunts alone - it's not enough to motivate me. But surround me with a distinct yet deeply connected pack and you'll see ME there.

Are you asking others what they see?
Are you building trust so that you can really share 'truth in love'?

God help me to do this more...